Jiu Jitsu, Manhood, and Purpose: Lessons from Lael Rodrigues

By Mark Odland, MA, LMFT and Lael Rodrigues, BJJ Black Belt and Coach

Based on Episode 8 of the Lion Counseling Podcast

The Fight is Real—On and Off the Mats

Lael Rodrigues knows what it means to fight. As a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu black belt, gym owner, and missionary raised in the favelas of São Paulo, he brings a rare mix of toughness, humility, and spiritual depth to every mat—and every conversation.

In our latest episode, Lael joined us to talk about manhood, purpose, adversity, and how Jiu Jitsu has shaped who he is today. This isn’t just a sport—it’s a way of life.

From the Slums to the Suburbs: Lael’s Journey

Serving in a rough neighborhood, Lael helped children survive and find hope—but it wasn’t until he encountered the discipline of martial arts that he discovered how to truly thrive.

His story is one of redemption. Of helping others rise above poverty. Of discovering purpose. And now, through Superior Jiu Jitsu, he’s mentoring men from all walks of life—teaching not just submissions, but spiritual and emotional strength.

Why Men Are Drawn to Jiu Jitsu

Lael put it perfectly: “Every man needs a battle. And in Jiu Jitsu, you face yourself.”

Jiu Jitsu gives men a structured way to:

  • Test their limits
  • Build humility through failure
  • Channel aggression into discipline
  • Form bonds with other men on a shared path

It’s Not Just About Winning

We talked about the unique mindset Jiu Jitsu develops—especially for men of faith. It’s about:

  • Resilience – Getting tapped out and coming back again
  • Discipline – Showing up even when life is chaotic
  • Service – Helping others grow, not just dominating

Lael’s philosophy reminds us that growth comes through pressure—and that real strength isn’t just physical. It’s mental. Emotional. Spiritual.

Jiu Jitsu as a Mirror

On the mat, you can’t fake it. Jiu Jitsu reveals your ego, your excuses, your limits. And that’s why it’s such a powerful tool for transformation.

We talked about how many men are carrying hidden pain, insecurity, and emotional tension. Jiu Jitsu becomes a place where that energy is channeled, where pride gets checked, and where confidence is earned—not given.

Faith + Fighting = Freedom

Lael isn’t just a coach—he’s a man of spiritual depth. His approach to Jiu Jitsu blends this into training. He sees every roll as a lesson. Every opponent as a teacher. And every student as a soul to serve.

This conversation felt like a motivational speech and training camp rolled into one. And it reminded us why the work we do at Lion Counseling is so aligned with what men find on the mats: truth, challenge, and brotherhood.

Are You Ready to Face Yourself?

Maybe you’ve been living with passive frustration or bottled-up aggression. Maybe you’ve been drifting without direction. Maybe you need to get back in the fight.

Whether you’re already on the mats or just thinking about stepping into a new challenge—now is the time.

➡️ Book a free consult and let’s talk about how therapy, coaching, or faith-based mentorship can help you level up—on and off the mat.

Final Thoughts from Lael

“Jiu Jitsu teaches you to control your body—but more than that, it teaches you to control your mind. And if your mind is under God’s authority, your life will follow.”

Men—get after it. Grow in strength. Grow in wisdom. And never stop sharpening yourself and those around you.

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